Tonight at dinner, my son was sitting with us at the dinner table for his usual 7 mins. He sets a timer using Alexa and he asks Alexa repeatedly, "how many much time is left?" It isn't perfect, but it is so nice to have him at the table with us every night. I just love it as a mom!
I set him a place with the exact same plate, glass, and cutlery that I set for the rest of us. He also has a second plate that is for his foods. He is to dish out one thing onto his plate and touch it. Recently, we are working to bring one food to his lips. We also talk about what the food is called. All of this gives him knowledge and experience. Even if he never eats it, he will know what it is. If he isn't comfortable bringing a food to his lips, then I ask if he will put it in his hand. We keep it easy and simple.
Last night, we had tacos. My son made a taco (wow!) There is not one part of the taco that he will eat. He was repulsed by the meat and made a comment regarding that. I suspect that he will never eat meat, and that's ok. The point was not to get him to eat it, but to see what's in a taco and engage in the meal. I was so proud of his taco. It just made my heart sing! It sounds so silly, but I was the proudest ARFID mom in the world last night at dinner and just smiled at this little taco.
I think he was a little proud too. As he gets older, he is more engaged in his healing. He "wants" to be like everyone else and these are small ways that he gets to be a part of it all. Sometimes it is just that simple.
I am an ARFID Mom. I am the mother of a 12 year old boy with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID). I have become the "expert" on my son's feeding issues. I am here to share what I've learned.