About 3 years ago, my husband flew to India for business. This was a rare treat for him as he does not travel for work. Since India is such a large country, he had to fly from one place to the next a couple times. During a layover in the airport, he saw a woman reading palms and he texted me asking if he should give it a try? So he did. He didn't say anything to the woman, but she told him that she saw that he has all boys (which he does, 4 of them) and that one has issues with his mouth (and that would be our ARFID son). How interesting. My husband asked if our son would be ok? She told him that one day he would experience a "shift" and that he would start eating.
That "shift" has been on my mind for 3 years. What does that mean? What is a "shift" specifically? Well, the other day it occurred to me what this would mean for my son. We were working on our new therapy in our little homemade therapy room, when it occurred to me that the "shift" would be of my son's "mindset". He truly believes today (and for the past 9 years) that he can't eat all of these foods that would nourish him and help him grow. The shift will occur, within his own mind, that he can eat anything he wants. He honestly believes today that he can't and never will be able to eat most foods even if he wants to. And because he believes this...he accepts failure at his attempts or he doesn't even try at all.
A couple days ago, I told him that the work we are doing is to teach his "body" to be open to eating new foods. I explained that his mind may want to eat a raspberry, but his body might be giving all the signals that he "can't" eat a raspberry. So, he listens to his body and doesn't eat it. But if we keep working at teaching his body to open up to this idea, then he most certainly will eat a raspberry one day. He looked really excited, as if I just told him he could do something that he's been denied for his entire life. His mind opened up that day. It was exciting to see.
Although this shift may be down the road, I can see the beginning of it starting. Every little opening is indeed an opening and a place to build for a shift to occur!
I am an ARFID Mom. I am the mother of a 12 year old boy with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID). I have become the "expert" on my son's feeding issues. I am here to share what I've learned.