I am the assistant coach for my son's 3rd grade Track and Field team. It is a ton of fun and it's a great way for me to spend time with him outside of all of our feeding struggles. For a few hours a week, we get to be a "regular" mom and son duo! The past two track meets, a family has generously brought treats to the event to share after the events ended. Both times, they were snacks that my son does not eat. When this happens, and it often does, I simply give him a back-up snack that I had packed earlier that day anticipating this situation, or I stop at the store and let him pick something out. I never make a big deal out of it and neither does he. He simply declines the snack and we go about our routine.
A couple of days ago, I received an email from the mother of one of the boys on the team. She writes, "In the spirit of team camaraderie, we would like to bring a snack to this week's track meet. What can we bring that your son will enjoy?" This was incredibly considerate! This particular mother was aware of our story, and most people are because we end up explaining ourselves on occasion. My son had been invited to her son's birthday party earlier this year. They were serving pizza and cake. My son would eat neither, so I fed him before we left for the party and then packed his "foods" in a bag that I handed to this mother. I told her that my son has a special diet and to please give him this bag at meal time. It turns out that he declined eating his foods at the party. I suspect that he didn't want to appear different. And this is our latest struggle, as he gets older and worries about his appearance toward his peers.
Regardless of all of our struggles, some days we are sent an angel and this week at our track meet my son will enjoy chocolate chip cookies with his teammates after they run their little legs off for their events! What a wonderful little gift that we will not overlook :) Many thanks to this ROCK STAR mom!
I am an ARFID Mom. I am the mother of a 12 year old boy with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID). I have become the "expert" on my son's feeding issues. I am here to share what I've learned.