There finally came a time in all of the therapies that we had tried with my son, when we made the decision to just "do nothing". It started a few years ago when we needed a break. I was sitting at the doctor's office for a regular checkup for one of my kids when I noticed a mom near me wearing a sweatshirt that said "Soccer Mom" on the back of it. I laughed to myself thinking if I had a sweatshirt, it would say "Therapy Mom" on the back. I had spent an extreme amount of hours sitting in therapy sessions or waiting rooms, while another attempt to help my son was being performed.
I learned as we went, that not all therapies were helpful. In fact, there were some therapies that actually made things worse. Early on, when my son was age 3, a therapist forced food in my son's mouth. She said "If he justs tastes it, then he will like it." Although, I often times had the same thought, I knew that was not the answer and I'm sure she did too. We get to a point where we just don't know what else to do. How do we put a dent in this? There were also times when my son fought with kicking and screaming as we navigated him into his therapy session. We thought this was what we needed to do. As his mom, I was wrong. This made it worse. I learned one HUGE lesson from this experience - if my son was reacting to the treatment negatively, then that treatment wasn't helping.
It got to the point where he was reacting poorly to everything we tried except for relaxation treatments, such as children's yoga, Higher Brain Living, and spiritual healing. All of these, regardless of your beliefs, are deeply relaxing sessions that gave my son an hour of pure "healing" in his little life. Even though these treatments were not curing his ARFID, they greatly helped his anxiety.
I learned that "doing nothing" was a better approach to helping my son than bringing him to a therapy where he would be stressed and anxious. I learned that he would have to be in charge of his treatment, not me. He is the one that will have to do the work, not me. So, for the past year and a half, we have done nothing, learned to relax and work with our situation.
I look forward to him growing a little older so that we can start talking about his options and learning the treatments that have helped others with ARFID (see www.arfidresource.com).
Sometimes "doing nothing" is the best thing to do at the time, and it's ok to take a break and breathe!
I am an ARFID Mom. I am the mother of a 12 year old boy with Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID). I have become the "expert" on my son's feeding issues. I am here to share what I've learned.